In this volume, I am not writing on how to jog, maintain healthy diet and dental issues, everyone knows what we should do to stay fit and healthy. The mind is the main thing that violates our hope and happiness whenever we face an unexpected and worse far more beyond our expectations. We humans have a basic algorithms when we saw what is not right. When mostly time that cures, where in fact that the matter is still not over yet. We may forget what is it but when it happens again, we tend to shut our mind and bodies to do anything with it. So is time really cures? Well the answer is, within the time, we think about other things and keep thinking. Therefore, it overlaps the strained issue we had which it is actually still there. Unless our delete tool is working well.

An adversity can burst from various ways, let's take the usual which make us go down. THE EXPECTATION, partly the root of all cause of adversity generally. Obviously we wouldn't want to see or to possess which aren't desirable. We expect too much things and when it didn't appear we're nothing but throwing tantrums. It makes sense that of all we want, we should acknowledge to the party that we expect from, with clear annotations and direct message we might probably have what we expect. We should not predict and hope, reading prayers to let the thing pop-up without any medium to it. We have to initiate and don't make our expectations too high, there is an order for everything so do this. Let me give a direct example. Lily was searching for a new washing machine for his husband at the nearest electronics retailer and she found her desired model. Lily then had an agreement of installment payment method and receive receipts and documents to ensure that the machine works perfectly and also to confirm that Lily is able to pay without fail trough out the contract with her monthly banking and wages printed in a copy of a paper. With a clear start, Lily and the electronic retailer had a great relationship, with all the detailed documents traded. Same goes in adversity, we don't expect that the washing machine will work perfectly like we wanted to when we didn't receive any introduction and basic handling to that machine. Of course, moms get mad when the laundry stinks. In this case, both has to play a part. On the other hand, what if a rich and arrogant costumer bought the machine, well he too receive good service, he was told how to handle and operate. Unfortunately, he was not interested to listen to the salesman and pose dominantly. He signs and walk off. What do you think will happened? "BUT HE SAID IT IS NUMBER ONE BRAND!" Oh pity, no point if it is a high-end product when you don't know how to handle and maintain it and now he had a huge argument with her wife over a spoilt washing machine just after 3 months getting it. Pathetic.

So there was two situations I stressed on. A simple example to understand. In reality, that may happened but let's be a bit specific. We told each other clearly and we both acknowledge each other that we understand what each of us expect so we fled with fulfilled heart, according to Lily's case. On the other hand, we simply take it as mere word and we simply do not care because of one, we do not care at all. Two, we trust the person and know that he'll not let us down. If you have option one, it is better to make things done and give the energy for relationships to last probably nothing to discuss about as it is already perfect for both parties to trade agreements. Option two is far more worst, we do not want to put too much hope because you might spill it. Although we know that the retailer or the person never make us down, we can't expect that there won't be any blunder or mess is going to happened because  there's a  phrase says, 'Things happened' and 'Safety first' you commonly heard that on the road. It applies to every aspect actually. The act of option two is not a satisfaction, we expect too much and when the time comes, there's a bomb in your heart. Also, the retailer or the person can't help much as he already done his job by providing clear information. So who's fault?

The point is, let us together make each other know what we want and do not be arrogant by nodding your head arrogantly and show no interest. Tell that either you already have the satisfaction or not to improve communication and focus on it so you shall not miss any details. Listen carefully and read carefully if any. Don't sit and hope that 'Nah, he should know'. NO HE DON'T, after you tell. Have that initiation to let the person knows what deals are we talking about and be sure what we say and what we here, we do not want ourselves to be disappointed due to miss-communication and undelivered communication. Good luck.